18. The Lies We Tell

If you've been a kid anywhere in the past 50 years, chances are you've encountered your fair share of tooth fairies, Santa stories and countless other fictional characters. Bringing enhanced excitement, joy and suspense, we all likely have good (and perhaps disappointing) memories growing up with these fictional friends.

As parents though, you've probably come to the realization (if not far before) that these characters are all, well, lies. They're grand stories told to us by our families, friends and communities that enhance our perspective, peak our excitement and focus our attention to where others think it should go. And as parents, it's on us as to whether, or to what extent, we tell our own kids these stories.

But, honestly, that's on you. And you'll do whatever your core belief structure and community dictate. We're human after all, and prone to influence. So - let's talk about something extremely interesting, that we really can postulate, consider and discuss - "useful lies" and the tactical implementation of these to influence your own, and your kids'' behavior.

As we discuss in the podcast, these "useful lies" are often stories we tell ourselves with temporary duration that can eventually lead us to believing or accepting a greater truth. These "useful lies" can get integrated in all kinds of ways - both in what we as parents tell ourselves, and what we tell our kids to solicit (or stop) a particular behavior.

They're powerful influences, and once you start to recognize what these useful lies are that surround our generation, you can try to postulate about what we'll eventually look back upon in future generations and determine are today's useful lies. What are we believing today that's not actually true? Because here in 20 years when kids have flown the coop, these will be the realities of their day.

After all, we live in dynamic times. Seeing the lies of today, can help us see the realities of tomorrow.